Does this take lots of time? Yes it does. But it is time spent communicating with the child in a healthy way and forming connections rather than time spent yelling and arguing with them. This morning I had to have 4 discussions with 4 different kids before the bus came. But everyone left the house with smiles on their face and I am not stressed at all, and feel like we accomplished something.
As they said in our training last week. They are going to get your time. You can either choose to give it to them in a good way or in a confrontation.